Through Gray Divorce I found my calling

There’s a moment in nearly everyone’s life where they review their life and whether by

force or choice, realise it no longer serves them like it once did.

For me, that moment came when I was 52 and my marriage of over 30 years ended.

Divorce in your 50s isn’t just a change in relationship status. It’s a full blown earthquake

or perhaps a tsunami. You do feel shaken to the core and you do feel like massive waves

are keeping you from reaching the shore.

A divorce in your 50’s is becoming a phenomenon known aptly as a Gray Divorce.

Whilst becoming a phenomenon in both media and academic research here is the part

not openly spoken about, the gray divorce can be the birthplace of something

extraordinary, a new chapter, a blank canvas waiting for you to fill it up with a new story

as mentioned in Forbes 20 July 2024.

“Yet, these individuals show remarkable resilience and a determination to seek

happiness in their remaining years, proving that it’s never too late to reevaluate one’s

path and make changes that align with their personal growth and well-being. An

authentic and fulfilling life is always worth pursuing, regardless of your age”

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A Psychologist Explains Why Couples ‘Gray Divorce’ After Years Of Marriage

I Didn’t Ask for a New Life—But That’s What I Got

When I first sat in the what I call “the mess” and in the silence of my own company, I

wasn’t trying to become a mentor, speaker, or leader. I was just trying to get through

each day so I could eventually climb into bed and cry myself to sleep.

I journalled. I meditated. I travelled, I studied, I moved to the beach, I changed jobs and

tried changing my name. I was running and I did not feel like I was getting any closer to

the finish line.

The grief and the isolation were overwhelming but somewhere in that grief, a new voice

whispered. What if this is your beginning?

And slowly, that voice started to make sense, and slowly my new chapter began.

Women Started Reaching Out—And Something Shifted.

As the new chapter began I realised being vulnerable and sharing my story was starting

to make an impact on people. Women started to ask me “how did I do it” what’s your

secret. If people were not asking for themselves, they were asking for parents, friends or

siblings.

The questions were not restricted to women, men were interested as well.

That’s when I realised my divorce had a purpose.

What I Now Know to Be True

Women over 50 you are just getting started.

Divorce opens the door to another chapter that both parties have the freedom to

recreate their new life on their own terms.

Every person has the tools within them to recreate a new life and rise into the best

version of themselves, sometimes they will need guidance to show them how.

From Broken to Brave: My mission today

My mission is to use my life experience to guide women to recreate a new life beyond a

long marriage that has ended in divorce or loss.

Through workshops, community service and storytelling, I will help women to become

the woman that they may never had become if this opportunity had not arisen.

This is the power behind Recreate & Rise, my calling, my movement, my love letter to

every woman who thought it was too late to start again.

You’re Not Broken. You’re Becoming

Despite its growing frequency, we rarely discuss that going through a Gray Divorce may

lead to an amazing new life. It’s the new life that you did not see coming, but now you

can see it, it’s time to recreate and rise.

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